Men ‘expect sex’ after three dates … surprising truths behind the modern dating game revealed

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  • Survey reveals fascinating insights into romance in the 21st century
  • Women now spending less on grooming before a date than men
  • Men expect sex on the third date, but women prefer to wait until the fifth
  • Both sexes spending fortunes preparing for dates that could end in sex.

Men now expect to sleep with a new partner on their third date – but women typically won’t consider it until the fifth, according to an intriguing new study on dating in the 21st century.

On the first date men are most likely to pay for dinner and drinks, with most couples tending to split the bill from the second date onwards.

But by the third date men expect sex and are willing to splash their cash to hurry the romance along.

Modern romance: A new survey has revealed some fascinating insights into love in the 21st century

One in five men described ‘expecting’ to sleep with their date if they spend over £100 on dinner.

And remarkably, it works, as seven per cent of women say they would feel ‘obliged’ to sleep with a man who had been so generous.

Adults spend an average of £47 on a first date, with men happy to spend more than women, the study of 2,000 people by found.

In fact, half of men will happily spend more than £50, while just 17 per cent of women are so liberal with their money.

Men are still most likely to pay for the first date, with couples splitting the bill from the second date onwards.

Both sexes are now spending small fortunes in a bid to prepare themselves for a date that could end in sex, the study found

Just three per cent of women take care of the bill on the first date, compared with 69 per cent of men.

But over half of women, 55 per cent, prefer to go halves and 69 per cent no longer expect their partner to pay on subsequent dates.

Both sexes are now spending small fortunes in a bid to prepare themselves for a date that could end in sex, the study found.

Men typically spend £46.79 on grooming, while women spend £5 less at £41.79.

Women prepare for a first night of passion by waxing their legs (58 per cent), buying new lingerie (32 per cent), and waxing their bikini line (17 per cent).

Men are most likely to buy new underwear (28 per cent), groom their pubic hair (27 per cent), and buy new bed linen (15 per cent).

The money is being spent wisely, as men say their biggest turn-offs are a hairy upper lip, dirty sheets, and hairy legs.

And women are turned off by dirty sheets, untidy nails, and an untidy bedroom.

Meanwhile both sexes are most turned-on by a partner who has a great personality and lots of self-confidence, the study found.

Almost a quarter of Brits (23 per cent) invest in grooming in a bid to live up to society’s pressures to look good in the buff.

And more than half (55 per cent) say it pays off, as their newly preened body leaves them feeling more confident.


1. Hairy upper lip

2. Dirty sheets

3. Hairy legs

4. Untidy nails

5. Body hair

6. Un-groomed pubic hair

7. Messy hair

8. Bad outfit

9. Ugly footwear

10. Lack of perfume


1. Dirty sheets

2. Untidy nails

3. Untidy room

4. Unshaved face

5. Bad outfit

6. Ugly footwear

7. Lack of perfume

8. Hairy upper lip

9. Un-groomed pubic hair

10. Ugly underwear

MSN relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr said: ‘This research dispels the myth that British singles are all jumping into bed on the first date.

‘It’s astounding to think that in 2013, one fifth of men expect a woman to go ‘all the way’ if they’ve spared no expense on a date.

‘Thankfully most women are not falling for that and refuse to sleep with a man simply because he’s a big spender.

‘As a rule, no one should feel pressure to slip between the sheets until they’re ready.

‘Some people confide in me that they fear a date won’t bother seeing them again if they don’t have sex, so it’s refreshing to read most aren’t bowing to this pressure.’

Waxing lyrical: Most men say that hairy legs are a major turn-off

‘That shows harmony in the way men and women view what can be a nerve-racking part of dating.’

And she added: ‘It is fascinating that men are now spending more on pre-date preparation than women.

‘However, they do tell me that they really feel the pressure to impress.

‘Even during a recession, the average man spends nearly £50 simply getting ready for a ‘hot date’, with women not too far behind.

‘There is enormous competition out there, so psychologically this preparation makes a singleton feel ready to put their best foot forward.’


1. Leg wax (58 per cent)

2. New lingerie (32 per cent)

3. Bikini wax (17 per cent)

4. Brazilian / Hollywood wax (10 per cent)

5. Buy new bed linen (7 per cent)

6. Get ‘vajazzled’ (adorning pubic area with glitter – 2 per cent)


1. Buy new underwear (28 per cent)

2. Groom pubic hair (27 per cent)

3. Buy new bed linen (15 per cent)

4. Back wax (4 per cent)

5. Facial (3 per cent)

6. Colombian wax (all pubic hair removed – 3 per cent)


1. Personality

2. Self confidence

3. Lingerie


1. Personality

2. Self confidence

3. Scent

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